If you feel some patterns are repeating and you’ve done a lot of work on it then here is a perspective to consider:
Let’s look at how an inner process can work:
Step 1: Clear the past (essentially you do the work to clear and balance old patterns and beliefs)
Step 2: Connect to the YOU without those patterns (this step is missed by many methods and you are left with a void to fill. That void can take you back to old patterns if it is not filled by what you are here to contribute or create)
Step 3: Re-align your life to the new YOU
Step 4: Patterns re-appear? Don’t worry. Most of the time it is not old patterns but challenges that you were unable to face in order to become the new you.
Imagine going to the gym after becoming ill. It takes time to rebuild yourself. You start slow and gradually build your muscles back, then you tone and then you maintain.
Building a new identity from the foundation of your essence takes time and necessary steps in CREATION - using the power of your will!
This is a skill you didn’t master because you were still living from the foundation of REACTION (Being the OLD identity)
Building your new self takes slow, gradual steps AND most important is to know the direction you want to go, the person you want to be. You choose, you don’t default.
Step 5: It is helpful to know your inner life Priority (What is most important for you right now in life). This will help you to adjust to YOUR new life and find fulfilment.
When I work with many people who have done a lot of work on themselves there are generally two missed steps:
The work done didn’t go deep enough. It didn’t deal with defences and mechanisms beyond the wall of protection and did not deal with the beliefs that exist behind it. They also did not adequately resolve the shadows and dissociations. Most people don’t even know they have a dissociative pattern.
The work did not connect them back to their essence but left them dangling in the void. Then they had to fill the void and went back into what is known and comfortable.
The result of this, is you keep going to other methods and approaches to heal the same pattern but what you are actually missing is connection to self.
A new discovery:
A new discovery I made is that very often we default back to old patterns because this is what we know, but it is not because the old pattern is still there, it is because our old way of dealing with challenges is based on the old pattern.
So, when a new challenge comes, you mistake it as an old pattern repeating but it is actually a challenge that you were unable to face because the old pattern was in the way. Now the challenge presents itself so that you can bring your new self to this challenge and learn the lesson you actually need to learn.
The old challenges were being attracted because of the pattern.
The new challenge is being attracted because of your desire to grow.
See the difference?
Once you complete your transformation and you connect to your essential self, you will begin to face challenges.
Those challenges have always been waiting there for you to embrace them, move past them and eventually overcome them.
Just like a video game, you conquer the boss and when you are competent enough, you move on to the next boss.
Into infinity and beyond life, growth and learnings expand us into
WHO WE HAVE ALWAYS WANTED TO BE ;-)
If you feel ready for your own life transformation and to connect to your essential self and finally step into the self you are ready to become
